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  1. Downsizing and declutterring are great, but old age and injuries and complications add another view. Accidents and surgeries change our clothing sizes and produce restrictions on our clothing needs, sometimes for over a year, sometimes forever. And sometimes we will be able to wear these clothes again, but maybe not for several years. So don’t get rid of everything, because shopping for replacements might not be physically possible or financially possible. And our life could be very different and limited.
    Moving to a smaller residence might make us have less to care for, but if you end up using a wheel chair or walker is the layout and size big enough to use these items? Can you even get in and out of your home? Tiny houses are appealing but can you really sleep in a loft if you can’t climb stairs? Is the bathroom large enough for your walker or wheelchair and maybe another person in with you to help you?
    And if you had to use a wheelchair or walker due to an accident or surgery, if you declutter it when you don’t need it when you heal, but the older you get the bigger likelihood it is that you will need it again. If you declutter it, you will be rebuying it, at a higher price.
    Don’t forget too that most retirees or handicap people have available home care through the state. Many of these kind people are willing to help you declutter and organize a little at a time, and take your excess items to places they can be used. But keeping your home clean and organized will make you feel more safe, comfortable, and peaceful especially when do not have the ability to go outside or anywhere, sometimes even a Doctor trip is your only time you get outside your house.
    This is from someone who’s been there too many times!

    1. “Available home care through the state”? What country are you in??? Obviously not the US 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve never even heard of such a thing!

      1. Not live in care. But many Medicare plans will get you access to home health caregivers who can help you bathe, check your vitals and even help with a little lite cleaning a couple of days a week. Some states Medicaid can provide that also.

  2. Thank you so much for your comment. you have described my situation exactly. I’m in constant pain and my mobility is a disaster. Standing to do dishes often requires that I take a couple breaks as I can only stand a couple minutes at a time. Even if I can manage to box things, I can’t get them down 15 stairs, into my car and off to where? I need help but do not know where to find it. It’s overwhelming.

    1. Hi Kate, I have mobility issues too. I can carry a light bag downstairs if I’m careful (I use a cane) so I bag things instead of boxing. Also, there are second hand shops that are glad to pick up any goods you want to donate. I highly recommend a rolling stool (I prefer saddle shaped ones) for use in the kitchen. Amazon can deliver it to your home. They have some that are lower priced. I hope this helps.

    2. My mom has been using paper bowls, plates, as well as Meals on Wheels, shelf stable and frozen meals.

  3. Thank you for highlighting the challenges of maintaining a household with health conditions. Between ADD and anxiety, cleaning and organizing around the house is a daily struggle and doesn’t align with how I want my home environment to be. What started as a few pieces of clothing on the bedroom floor has grown into a huge mountain of clothes. As I get more and more overwhelmed with the scale of the project, the mountain gets bigger and even more insurmountable. As you suggested in the article, I broke up the task into incredibly small steps. What I added is that I perform the steps at the same time every day to create a routine. Most importantly, I don’t allow myself to do more than just that one step per day, even if I feel up for doing more. If the step is “Hang up five items of clothing in the closet,” I do that and walk away. The benefit of this is that I walk away not only having completed a step, but also feeling energized, more capable, and less anxious about doing it again the next day. Now I get to watch the clothes mountain shrink everyday, and feel so much better knowing I’m doing something about it.

  4. The comments summarize what a friend of mine is going through.

    I just want to pass along a hint I saw in a comment on the Flylady website:

    Take “Before” and “After” pictures! I wanted to do this, but then couldn’t find my camera, before realizing there’s a camera on my cellphone! (duh)
    It’s really amazing how very helpful this is.

    Also, sometimes 5 minutes is way too long. It’s amazing what even 30 seconds can do. 😀

  5. Home health care is available through local Senior Service organizations. There are requirements such as age, and financial limitations but if you are over financial limits, you can hire independently. An assessment by trained case managers will determine if you qualify for government assistance. Hope this helps.

  6. In November, I was told I had four to six months to live. I figured I was going to start feeling sick really soon, so I did the equivalent of Swedish death cleaning, especially as I did get more ill, as I lost a lot of weight, so I gave away almost all of my clothes. Remember, I was only working with a four to six month time frame. In testing, due to a genome testing company I volunteered to work with to maybe help others, in January, they let me know I was misdiagnosed, and while I still had cancer, it was treatable and I would be around for, possibly, many years. I did lose a lot of weight during this time and now I have no clothes. So, my moral of the story is don’t rush into it.

  7. My tactic has been to 1. don’t afraid to throw away papers. Most bills etc. are on the internet anyway. Shred if you can or cut them up. 2. Give some of your precious items to your kids, grandkids and dearest friends now.
    I found this to be so heartwarming for everyone.

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