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  1. #10 Clothes that don’t fit your lifestyle.
    You had me at the reference to, “season of your life”. I’m 62, Ann artist and bohemian personality who is firmly, lovingly grounded in my Christian faith. My wardrobe has gone for many years without an update. Without a full time job, &with a quiet lifestyle, I saw no need.
    So my clothing will regularly be a decade or more old, have repairs, and stains that have be transformed with embroidery or bleach painting.
    this year I decided it was time to make a change. I ordered several styles to try & returned what was obviously not me. Now it’s the hard part… letting go of Clothes that I’ve constantly worn for over 10 years.

    1. Dear Sonya, you do not wear them so it’s clear you do not need them. Still, it’s hard to let them go: bravely choose the hard way (which is said to most often be the best one!!! lol).

    2. Right on! My closets are so jam packed the whole mess drops to the floor when the overweighted rod gives way.
      I’ve been hanging on to everything for all the wrong reasons. The occasional piece consigned or donated is quickly
      replaced with several others. Time to accept my current lifestyle, size and comfort expectations. Thanks for the timely
      suggestions. LIL

    3. Hi Sonya

      Letting go can be difficult, we always think ‘I’ll use it one day’, or ‘I got a good deal during the sales’, or ‘I wore this to that occasion’

      I actually copied the sub-title :
      10. Clothes that don’t fit your lifestyle
      to keep in a corner of my mind.
      it so clearly defines me

      I have been wfh since 2020 and go to office twice a week.
      All the shoes I bought since 2019 are broken and most jeans don’t fit anymore.
      Long-sleeve blouse for meetings, black pointed heels.

      These articles r so well-said.
      Am attacking this one :
      https://thesimplicityhabit.com/how-to-be-ruthless-when-decluttering-clothes/

    4. I know the feeling. I am 81 and don’t go out a lot. I went through my wardrobe and took out all the Indian trousers. We call them pajamas, brightly coloured and loose. I wear them as home daytime wear with loose tops, and also with tees. It feels like a new wardrobe! I threw out all the shabby stuff and still had enough for 2 more wardrobes. I also use my pajamas for night wear with a loose shirt. So I haven’t bought any new clothes for about 8 years. we do have a couple of weddings coming up, so maybe this is the time to buy 2 or 3 outfits… which will last me a long time!

  2. This is such an approriate article meant for me. I have been decluttering for the past weeks. I have not touched my closets yet, still in my tons of papers that need to be shreded, so many knickknacks, so many of everything. I sold some books and donated most books to different libraries in our community schools and church. I had a hard time decluttering at first cuz am a very sentimental person. But not anymore. I am turning 65 next month.
    Now with this article, I now know how to start this time with my tons of clothing. Thank you so much.

  3. I especially like using my own senses to judge whether or not to keep an item. It doesn’t matter if I have have a super warm sweater in my favorite color- if the lambswool is so itchy against my skin that it drives me crazy, out it goes. Same goes for anything with a scratchy tag that I cannot rip or cut off without compromising the item. If a piece is not versatile enough to be easily dressed up or down, I get rid of it as well. The process is emotional for sure. There are so many items tied to good memories too. It is even more frustrating when you have OCD and are constantly striving for a color palette that works for each season/weather/occasion especially in the Midwest where you NEED every type of outerwear there is. Sometimes I think life would be easier living somewhere tropical – dresses and sandals would be the only items I’d have in my closet!

  4. I was laughing, nodding and responding to myself all throughout this article bcz I resonated with it all the way, it was so Me, sizes going up and down, scratchy,itchy things,self conscious pieces, sentimental pieces,corporate clothes which I’m no longer in,clothes with tags still on, items to be mended staring, feeling like I have no clothes to wear yet the closet is so full and might not remember other items in there, oh I could just pull you out of the article straight to my closet. Main challenge presently is financial ability to replace the gaping hole after removal of all these items. Thank you so so much for this article,really, thanks

    1. But surely the idea is to declutter and end up with fewer clothes that you can actually wear, not go out and replace the ones you get rid of?

  5. What I am doing now is certainly not working. I’m ready for help and my closet is a good place to start. I have clothes that fit every category in this article. I moved from a large house into an adult family care home. It started out ok, I moved in with an appropriate amount of stuff but over time I’ve collected things like I was still living in the large home and now I can barely move on my little room. I need to declutter my closet so I can use it for storage then sort through the knick knacks and crafting things and other stuff so I can get back to a normal life. This is ridiculous. I’m counting on you for help. Here goes nothing or I should say everything….. Julie
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  6. I begun decluttering a few months ago. Labeling each box; friends, donate and self, meant for my family when I’m gone. I started in my kitchen, the china cabinet then finished off the cabinets of nic- nacs in my living room. Actually my closet has been easy and didn’t realise how many pairs of one item I had. For months I could not/ did not want to face it but now especially after your article I’m only keeping what reflects on my personality & suitable for everyday wear. If I haven’t worn it by now it goes bye-bye! Loved the article. Kathy in AZ.

  7. wonderful article! The only thing I would add is under the heading of “things that don’t have a partner.” Each season I find myself with something really nice that needs a partner. So, this year it was a sage green down vest with a beautiful handmade scarf. I searched high and low for the perfect plum-colored sweater. I finally found it, and now I have a beautiful outfit that I love for only the cost of a sweater (which, happily, was on sale!)

    I am feeling smug and satisfied LOL

    Like Chrissy above, I live in the Midwest and need everything sooner or later, as the seasons change. So, it is often better for me to add one item than to shop for a whole new outfit.

  8. Decluttering has always been a challenge for me. After several years of having “cleaning out my closet” as a winter project that didn’t happen, this year it IS happening! Earlier this year I signed up for a trial of Ridwell, an “add-on” recycling service now available in many areas. They go the extra mile to find partners for hard to recycle items that will give them a new life. One of their regular pick-up categories (every 2 weeks) is “Threads” which includes all kind of clothing & shoes. I’ve discovered that it’s fairly easy for me to find something to put in the “Threads” bag each time & some weeks it’s actually stuffed full! Since I know it is going to a new life somewhere else, that makes it easier to “let go” of a few things week by week. The cool thing is that in addition to several categories they pick up each time, they also have rotating categories that they let you know about in advance so you have a few weeks to look around your house & gather things to pass along. One week they were picking up extra bedding, sheets, towels etc. I was able to gather and pass along 5 stuffed bags of items that had been taking up closet space for a long time. Another pickup involved jewelry including old watches (which went to creative crafting people to be remade into new artistic items). My husband was able to let go of quite a few old non-working watches, so he’s now on board with Ridwell, too! In fact we have set up a little Ridwell recycling area to collect upcoming “featured” items like empty printer cartridges, wine corks, bread bag plastic tabs & so much more! It has been a fun way, almost like a game, to look forward to “letting go” a little bit at a time, knowing your clutter is moving on to a new more useful life somewhere else! It’s like getting rid of stuck energy. Using this service has allowed us to downsize our municiple garbage collecting containers and save enough $ each month to pay for the modest Ridwell fees! We Love it!

  9. After deciding to go away for 6 months when I retire, and turning my home over the a rental agency, the huge job of decluttering started 3 months ago. Ebay, and free sites have helped. haven’t started on clothes yet!

  10. I can relate to Vivian – so much of everything!! I’ve been trying to declutter for a few months now -it takes time and I find it difficult to make decisions (the what ifs) so I do a little bit at a time or what I’m in the mood to do (paperwork, etc.). I too live in the Midwest and can relate to needing so many types of clothes for the seasons. I finished my closet this summer – sorted by color. Now I am working on accessories (scarves, etc.) and what to do with all the items I don’t want (donate, consign, sell). I packed up one small tote with “Nostalgic” clothing for remembrance – couldn’t let go enough to save by picture yet. We’re all in this together – just keep going – do something to declutter. I always feel like I’m never doing enough, but something is better than nothing. I like articles like this.

    1. I love the little-bit-at-a-time approach you advocate, Debra, and your positive, gentle approach to the whole undertaking. Thanks for the encouragement!

  11. Love this list of criteria. I’ve been minimizing for several years now. During the process it occurred to me I have a definite style, both in clothing and home design, and have no tolerance for low quality items of any kind. Knowing what I like prompted me to go through and collect my must keeps, a way smaller collection, and then go back to sort the remaining donate and sell items. The trash went out with my first round of collecting the keepers. I have used this method to help my elderly father as well. We call it “finding our favorites” Using your list I bet I can go back through things and find more to declutter. Thank you!

  12. When working, I dressed according to dress code, and wore professional clothes. I had a nice variety. Within the first week of retiring, I gladly removed every piece from my wardrobe, gave every stitch away and never looked back. (Needed no reminders of life in the work force). I then bought casual wear, which is “me” and was very selective about what I bought. Had to love it, have a good fit, and no more ironing! It is so liberating having enough, but not so much the closet is jam-packed. Next thing to go will be my iron and ironing board. Great article and agree with it all.

  13. The closet is the hardest thing!! I’ve decluttered everything else & procrastinated this. But, I’ve been working on it for the past 3 days (before I saw this post). It’s been a very challenging couple of years and I’ve gained 40 lbs, bla bla bla. So I’ve had to try on almost every single piece. I have an extra closet where I can keep a few faves that will fit again after some weight loss. There’s a big pile to go to a resale shop (we both make a little $), some went in the trash, some to GoodWill, etc etc. But boy has it been a long, arduous, depressing task. The closet is dusty, the clothes are dusty, I have to wash the hangers! (Live in an area w agriculture) I’ve decided I need to be grateful for what I do have. And that I have that second closet! I also think of how happy the woman who owns the second-hand shop will be. Her inventory is low. She reminded me of accessories- so I’ll bring her shoes, purses, and jewelry also.
    I can’t wait til this is over!

  14. Don’t forget that when your “donate” box is full, get rid of it! In times past, I have found myself reopening them to see if there is something I might need and ended up keeping most of the box! Get it out of the house right away!

  15. Three n a half years ago, I joined Weight Watchers. In January I lost 2#, since February 1st I got a cold, cough, fever (diarrhea TMI) n lost 8# in in eight days. With a 10# loss, Sunday I started going through my pants that I’ve collected over the last 5yrs.

    This article is perfect timing, got rid of pants that I said, What was I thinking when I bought those 😆😆.. I though I was brutal cleaning out a bag n a half. After I go through my tops, I’ll go back n be BRUTAL on the pants, again..

    I’m sending this article to my daughter, she’s doing the same!!!

    Thanks for your help!!!!!

  16. During Covid I haven’t socialised, or met many friends, or been out in the evening. So I have clothes I love that I haven’t worn for 3 years or so. They still fit. I hope to get back to going out, to entertaining, to being entertained. But during the patch 2020-23 I’ve lost many friends, I’ve significantly aged, and may not get back to the way I was (I’m now 83) I’ll keep these clothes another year or two, to see what changes in my life bring about.

    1. I posted this comment over 2 years ago, forgot about it. It’s interesting coming back to it. No, I haven’t got back to the way I was before Covid. I’m now 85, and I feel less energetic, less interested in going out, enjoying interacting online now so many friends have gone. This article has pushed me into looking again at clothes — like plain black cashmere jumpers I haven’t worn for several years, and they are too warm to wear in the house. I don’t have any satisfactory shoes; they may as well all go. And so on. And it’ such a good idea to get rid of itchy clothes!

  17. I just switched out my winter clothes for summer(YEAY) and even eliminated one tub! When I brought out the bag yes a garbage bag-my husband said “Is there anything in there that I bought you?” There wasn’t but that is the big issue whenever I purge! He did shock me by saying to wait to haul it out as he wanted to go through his stuff and clear out some clothes. Then we can make the trip worth while. I nearly fainted!!!

  18. I recently got rid of a ton of clothes that I no longer use. I kept some things that I’m unsure of because I’m moving to an area that has a significantly different climate. If I haven’t worn them by the time winter is over they’ll go away. The one thing I can’t bring myself to get rid of but rarely wear are a couple of tshirts that I bought when I did a study abroad program in my fifties in Costa Rica. Sentimental.

  19. Fussy pieces… best described for me as those annoying frills and layering effects that women’s clothing tends to have these days. I’m a busy Mom, and I like classically structured clothing, but tried a few pieces with the layered neckline, a feminine shoulder, or sleeve, but quickly have found that these are definitely not for me- yet such beautiful pieces. Saying goodbye to them, and accepting that the next gal may have the time for constant readjusting of the 8 layer neckline on a cute little fall sweater piece, or the sleeves that ride up when an arm is slightly raised. Best of luck! 😊

  20. The hanger method would be great, except that anything that I have only worn for a few hours and is still clean, I put back in the wardrobe with the hanger backwards. Then I know that it’s more likely to need washing next time I wear it.

  21. I have gained weight due to not being able to walk( I used to walk 4.5-5 miles a day). I gave away all my fat clothes, have clothes only for my skinny body. Now I have nothing to wear. I look terrible 😞 in my skinny clothes ( shirts especially). I still can’t walk well. I have clothes for every season and they are in my closet. I can put them away in cloth containers ( only use cloth containers because plastic bins ruin your clothes), but I have no room to put them in 😳. I like my skinny clothes ! I really don’t know what to do 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ please help. Thank you and God bless!

  22. I agree with most of this. I take issue with the word “flattering,” however. Generally it means items that make you look appealing to others. We should be dressing for ourselves, our comfort, our tastes, regardless of what others determine is flattering on us.

    I’m also one who wears fussy fabrics. I prefer natural fabrics to synthetics (which don’t allow the body to breathe, making me miserable) so in winter I wear alpaca, mohair, merino wool, and cotton sweaters, all which must be dry cleaned to keep shape and texture. In summer I wear cotton and linen dresses which are crisp and pristine when dry cleaned. I prefer pristine, so yes to fussy clothes. I think the only items that go in the washing machine are bathroom, bedroom, and kitchen linens, hankies, undergarments, socks, and tee-shirts, all 100% cotton sans bras.

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