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  1. I live in a 950 sq ft apartment. One would think it couldn’t contain TOO much clutter. Wrong. Every surface including windowsills were filled to the brim with stuff (mostly gifts I didn’t know what to do with so just stuffed them wherever they fit). I did two major declutters, one the winter of 2024, and one the spring of 2025. In 2024, I decluttered closets filled with unworn clothes, some with tags. I rid myself of unwanted gifts, items I felt guilty about getting rid of should the giver visit and note the item not on display. I decided to toss my guilt along with the items. And oh what fun it was to get rid of all of the decor, the pillows that took up valuable sofa space, the throws on the back of chairs, there because they matched the chair fabric. The apartment looked lighter almost instantly. I was pleased and thought I’d finished.

    Then I retired, looked around and heard my brain say, “You’re going to live in this apartment until you can no longer tend to yourself. Is this how you want to live?” The answer was NO. This time I let go of big ticket items – tattered sofa, broken writing table, more. I hadn’t been a college student for decades. Grown ups have head and footboards on their bed. I bought what I’d always dreamed of, simple wrought iron. Did I like the bed and bath linen I’d used for years without taking any notice? Did I deserve the French linen bed sheets and Turkish towels? Why was I asking myself permission? Why hadn’t I thought colors and textures when choosing decorative items such as the three random toss pillows in living, bedroom, and study. And yes, even the shower curtain can add interesting texture? Wouldn’t my head, neck, and shoulders feel more comfortable, provide better rest with decent bed pillows? And what of art? I have a favorite local artist. Why aren’t I showcasing his original work? Why did I have a mink hat? Books? I have over 1200. When will I ever read Auden’s poetry or that anthology I thought I had to have because every other grad school classmate had it? I’m sure none of us actually read it. I distributed hundreds of books to Little Free Libraries throughout the city.

    This went on for months, noticing what I no longer wanted or needed and giving it away to neighbors, cousins, Buy Nothing Group, anyone interested in taking it off my hands. There were at least 100 happy takers. I didn’t sell or consign. I wanted decluttering to be as effortless as possible. Once I decided an item must leave the premises, I wanted it gone within days and so it was.

    I ended up with a simply, lovely, refuge where I am free to rest and entertain, work on my manuscript, read, take cello lessons, cook nutrient rich meals, bake bread, tend plants, and listen to lots of jazz, classical, folk, and Sting. To keep it all going, periodically I reverse declutter because somehow that cabinet that holds the mugs…

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